Scintillectually Yours

1. What are your feelings about traditional bachelor/bachelorette parties?
I don’t really have any thoughts about them one way or the other. When I got married to my ex-wife it was in a terrible rush—we applied for our marriage license the day Massachusetts approved gay marriage. We had a tiny ceremony in a friend’s living room four days later. We divorced two years later (that’s rather off topic but just because you can doesn’t mean you should). When former HTB and I were planning our wedding it was assumed that we would have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We were planning a very large, formal, traditional wedding. So yeah, I guess I’d have gone through the whole white tee-shirt “future Mrs. HTB” thing with a bunch of giggling bridesmaids.

2. Do you wear (or not wear) something special to bed/dress differently when you want to have sex?
When I assume I am going to be having sex or there is the possibility of it, then yes…I do break out the sexy lingerie—for someone who enjoys me in it (and trust me, I enjoy being in it—I LOVE wearing sexy lingerie). However, former HTB always preferred me to be naked and ready and I think that then loses some of the romance involved in sex with a regular partner. When I am alone? It’s comfy pajamas all the way.

3. Do you ever fake orgasms?
I have in the past and yes, I’m very good at it. You may think you would know the difference—trust me, you don’t.

4. Do you own any leather or rubber clothing?
I own a leather motorcycle jacket. I own a rubber trench coat (which sounds rather pervy). That’s it. No leather bedroom wear, no rubber dresses. Doesn’t look that great on a woman my age and with my excess baggage.

5. On a scale from 1-10, how willing are you to do something in bed you don’t want to just because you are asked?
9. Unless it is on my very specific “don’t do” list—which I will lay out up front to anyone I am considering having sex with, I am pretty adventurous. However, outside of that “don’t do” list, I can’t really think of much I haven’t already done.

Bonus: Can men and women be “just friends?”
Of course. I have lots of male friends that I don’t sleep with or would ever consider sleeping with. My issue was always having female friends without some kind of sexual tension. Now that I’ve gotten older, I’ve found that I can have healthy adult friendships with other women without sex getting in the way. I love my BFF, just not like that.